I had a great conversation with a friend of mine today and the concept of uncertainty came up. It had me deep in thought all evening. I started asking myself, what in our lives is REALLY certain??? We aren’t certain that we’ll keep our jobs or that we will remain in good health. In fact, we aren’t even guaranteed to wake up tomorrow! The interesting thing is that we often don’t think much about this concept of uncertainty in our everyday lives. When I lay my head on the pillow at night and rise the next morning, I don’t think that something could possibly happen to me that could change the course of my life. I simply go on with the mechanics of my life and unless I have a close call or an eye-opener, I really don’t think about it.

The same bit of uncertainty lies within our relationships with people. The most stable of marriages, friendships, and relationships all possess this piece of unknown. But why is it that we don’t take the same approach to those as we do our everyday lives? I mean, if the same bit of uncertainty lies in whether I will be able to take my next breath and I don’t spend countless hours analyzing and weighing all the possibilities of that happening or not, then why do I do this in my relationships? Why would I hold my breath in fear of the next breath coming or not? In this new year, I hope to embrace a more carefree approach to my relationships – romantic, familial, and friendly. Less analyzing, arguing, and discussing and more living, loving, and enjoying. The fear of uncertainty will always be around to rear its ugly head, I just can’t let it run my life!